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Dealing directly with someone who has cancer is a multifaceted learning experience for both the caregiver as well as the one inflicted with the disease. For me, the spouse, it was a driving force in my marriage that drastically altered both the relationship and the routine Mike and I had upheld for years.
Your life becomes the disease, filled with treatments and doctor appointments. It becomes the focal point of everything. You build your life around it, making changes to accommodate it. It’s a living, breathing presence in your life that can wreak havoc.
My husband’s diagnosis brought us together in the beginning, but only for a short time. Then it tore us apart. I’m thankful that we did come full-circle. Mike’s disease did bring us back together in the end, leading us to where we needed to be.
When one is diagnosed with a catastrophic illness it is so important to seek and utilize the many services that are available for spouses, family and friends. I received so much compassionate help and guidance from the array of services and support groups that are readily available. Though my husband refused counseling it assisted in guiding me through the many difficult avenues one must travel when dealing with a seriousdisease. I learned that my way of coping with my husband’s leukemia was to educate myself about it. Everyone has different coping mechanisms. Some are healthy and some are not.
Effective communication is vital. I’ve seen the results of unspoken words. It’s painful to watch, the regrets, and the guilt, as well as the anger that others have because they were incapable of communicating or taking action. In the end Mike and I didn’t have that burden to carry, and that
brings me great peace. Time is so precious. Never assume that they’ll always be more of it. I am
thankful that Mike was able toacknowledge and accept that he was losing his battle with AML.
Facing that truth and effective communication brought us to where we needed to be before it was too